Real life conversation in the break room at lunch.....
Frenemy Co-worker: "But doesn't breastmilk go bad after a while?"
Me: "Do you mean the stuff that I pump for her to have at daycare? I could freeze that for a couple of months if I wanted to."
Frenemy Co-worker: "No. I mean, like, she can't have the stuff in your boobs after, like, 6 months or so, right?"
Me: No, that's still fresh....???????
There are only two people in my life whose negative comments have shaken me up. The first "negative Nelly" is the aforementioned co-worker. She doesn't have kids, but she does have lots of opinions about parenting. To be fair to her, in the conversation I wrote above, I think she was actually trying to ask if I could start giving Evie other foods at 6 months. She just asked in a really bizarre way. She also showed that she doesn't feel that breastfeeding beyond 6 months is appropriate. I tried to ignore that part.
Unfortunately, the other one of those people has been my own mother. I think there are a lot of factors in her unenthusiastic view of breastfeeding. When I was born almost 30 (yikes!) years ago, I don't think there was as much support from hospitals, and I think it was more difficult for a woman returning to work to keep up on pumping, etc. I don't think my mom knew that I would have as much support as I did from lactation consultants, our pediatrician, and friends who had also breastfed. There isn't necessarily a specific comment that she has made, but her attitude has always been fairly pessimistic about my plan to breastfeed, and the length of time that I have chosen to breastfeed. I wish that it could have been different.
I am very fortunate that 99% of the people in my life have been nothing but supportive about my choice to breastfeed. My mother-in-law has even been one of my biggest advocates for breastfeeding as long and Evie and I are happy to do it. I've managed to avoid being affected by many negative comments purely because I don't care what most other people think about the subject. How you feed your baby is your choice. I know that there are many women who try desperately to breastfeed, but are unable to do so for various reasons. I have been lucky to have the choice and ability to breastfeed Evie for a year and beyond.